Being Detached From the Love You Really Want
Yet another conundrum in regards to manifestation from the spiritual into the physical is the idea that in order for your desire to really come to pass you have to remain “detached” from it really happening.
It’s sounds like an impossible paradox – if you were really detached from having, for example, the relationship that you want to happen in your life, then why would you really be praying so hard for it in the first place?
Well, there is a universal law called the Law of Detachment that works in conjunction with the other universal laws, including the Law of Attraction. Deepak Chopra explains the Law of Detachment in this way:
“In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty . . . in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.”
There are two big keys in Chopra’s explanation of detachment that I think can bring this notion back down to earth. The first is the phrase, “freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning.”
It is your past conditioning that creates your desires but also your ideas and imaginings of how exactly those desires will come about. In other words, fantasies. Your fantasies, your delusions that getting what you want – in the perfect way you imagine it happening based on your past conditioning – will somehow make you whole, complete, done… is actually a prison created in your mind.
And by choosing to stay locked inside that prison, which is that very narrow idea of what you believe will bring you happiness, the Universe cannot bring you anything outside of your comfort zone – including a love that is new, better, and never like any you’ve known before – into your reality. Though the Universe may try to send you messages or opportunities your way you will remain blind to them because you are locked in the prison of your past conditioning. You are attached to your way. You are not open.
Chopra says you must step into the “field of ALL possibilities” even if one of those possibilities means never being in a soul mate love relationship. Just hear me out for a moment…
Which brings me to the second point and that is Chopra’s use of the word “surrender.” Now I think surrender is a word heavily misunderstood. It in no way means giving up and just forgetting about your soul mate relationship and goals and everything you ever wanted.
Surrender means being okay with whatever happens. Soulmate or no soulmate. Having peace no matter what the Universe decides to bring you. That doesn’t mean you can’t change things if something isn’t totally ideal by course correcting, but it does mean having peace and trusting that everything is unfolding for your perfect and highest good along the way.
So I think that in relation to attracting the soul mate partnership, and anything else, you truly desire that the Law of Detachment can be most helpful if understood and spoken in this way:
I am open to and at peace with all possibilities that the Universe may have in store for me. I trust that everything is unfolding for my highest and greatest good. I’m excited about the endless possibilities around me.
Meditate on those mantras daily and begin noticing how much less attached you become to a particular outcome and how much more open you are to everything that is. And while you are detaching from one particular outcome, you are actively engaging with the Universe to create a new, and more expansive experience than you ever have known before.
What outdated idea that has kept you imprisoned are you willing to release and what are all the other possibilities you can open to? I’d love to hear from you! Please comment below, and if you enjoyed this article please share it with the social media buttons below.
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